“In times of crisis, whether wild fires or smoldering stress, the first thing to do is go back to basics….. am I eating right, am I getting enough sleep, am I getting some physical and mental exercise everyday”. Edward Albert
Over Christmas and New Year, I had an absolutely brilliant holiday with my two youngest children. We all made New Year’s resolutions of what we wanted to achieve this year and affirmed our life’s goals. Coming home, it was great the first few days sitting soaking up the summer sun, watching the sunrise, hearing the birds, appreciating our long summer days.
Then THUMP! I was brought back to reality. The need to keep working is still there; the need to finalise our matrimonial settlement papers has not gone away; the house is cluttering up again; it is still a long four hour drive to see my son, daughter-in-law and grandchild; there are still bills to pay; there are still messes to sort; my family still live interstate. THUMP! THUMP! THUMP! And to top it all off ….. where did that little black cloud above my head come from?
Before I went away I had been working through my values and beliefs on my journey towards becoming myself. Some on my beliefs to some people may seem idealistic with an altruistic flavour, but I treasure my beliefs and have in the past been quite vocal, pro-actively fighting for these in our society, and following them in my workplace and in my home. Of course, when I was struggling to cope on a daily basis, they were the furthest thing from my mind. As I began to heal, I started thinking of them again. I wrote them down. I know that it is great to have come so far that I was able to think through these values and beliefs and reaffirm them in my head, to assure myself that deep inside I was and am a valuable person, a good person; and that none of that has been taken away from me.
I think I may have gone a little ahead of myself, as at this point in time on my healing journey I need to return again to basics for a while – to focus on my health, my daily routine. For the moment, I accept that I need to leave these beliefs for someone else to stand up for….. to look after.
However, as I had come as far as thinking about them, I thought that I would at least list them for now – as an affirmation of who I am and what I believe in. In time, when I am stronger, I will come back to them to write about them in more detail. So here are some of my beliefs…….
MY BELIEFS # 4,5,6
# 4 I believe in a Fair and Democratic Society
- Democracy – a form of government in which all citizens have equal rights in the decisions that affect their lives.
- Justice – fairness to all by a concept of moral rightness and applied to social justice, personal justice, legal justice
- Abiding by the law
- Peaceful protest against laws that are unjust
- Independent judiciary
- Autonomy – allowing rational individuals to make free and informed choices
- Personal liberty
- Social Responsibility
- Free avenues for artistic creativity and imagination for personal development and fulfillment
# 5 I believe in Humanitarianism
- Human Rights
- Harmony / inclusiveness
- Non-maleficence (do no harm)
- Beneficence (help others)
- Utilitarianism (greatest good for the greatest numbers)
- Fidelity
- Honesty
- Privacy
# 6 I believe in Ethical Science
- The pursuit of science for the production of knowledge through peer review and the scientific method.
- The use of science ethically by its use creatively, not destructively, for the greater good of mankind.
- Protection of the Environment by sustainable living practices and industries
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And now ….back to basics for me for a while ……
Would you be interested in contributing to a book I’m writing about beliefs? I don’t know if you’ve seen my post… but I’d like to get as many different viewpoints as I can and try to find some common ground between them.
http://thelastsongiheard.wordpress.com/2013/01/04/the-rivers-of-belief-enigma/
If you don’t have time or don’t want to participate for any reason, I’ll understand… I just thought you’d have something really interesting to say 🙂
Hi there. this sounds like a great idea for a book. I will check out your post at the week-end and reply to you. Bye for now 🙂
I understand the THUMP!
Yes, we are kindred spirits you and I.
I like your beliefs — and the nice thing about them is, no matter what you’re doing, or where you’re putting your focus, they are the foundation of everything you do.
What a solid, and loving foundation you have!
Hugs
(and yes, I understand about the ‘thump’ — sometimes, we just gotta listen to its knock to hear our heart beat calling us to be still and take care for awhile.
Yes, you are right that the solid foundation of beliefs and values does give us grounding, gives us a base. It gives us that rock of support – except that is an inward rock, rather than someone else to lean on, its our own strength.
Thanks
We all get thumps and I wouldn’t say you were ahead of yourself before Christmas, I think you just got a few thumps and when that happens, you’re right it’s back to the basics. May your 2013 be filled with awe, wonder, love and joy!
Thanks. You too ….
I, too, am struggling with wanting to get a reprieve from all the “must do’s” to allow myself to experience my feelings in some kind of “pure” setting. Instead there are job interviews, calls about my daughter’s health insurance, and signing forms for the realtor all over the calendar.
There is always too much to do. I find myself burning energy thinking about doing, when that energy could be used to take care of myself.
Yes, you are right. I have been waiting for a ‘clear’ moment when I can think things through or think about myself or when rational decisions can be made. I am still waiting.
Good luck with the job hunting.
Oh thumps. They hit hard but they remind us of our humanity in us. It’s difficult but humbling. Thanks for sharing this and great list of beliefs.
You are correct, humility is one thing that is learned when one receives thumps.
Thanks for your understanding.
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