My H.E.A.L.T.H.plan – To begin at the beginning

ID-10041450.digitalartIn my first few weeks of freedom, after signing the marital settlement and selling the business, I was euphoric. The feeling of being alone and single and having full control over my own time, my own social life, my own family connections, my own finances, and my own responsibilities was intoxicating.

Then came moments of feeling overwhelmed.

It was as if three years ago I had been hit by a truck. It had taken me those three years to scramble from underneath the truck. For a long time, that became my focus and aim, to get out from underneath the weight of the truck, from the weight of the ‘process’ of legal and financial separation. So even though I finally became free of its weight, and that in itself was liberating, I could also begin to see the world beyond the truck.

It had changed. What’s more, I had changed. I had been waiting for that freedom for so long and yet when I got there, I realized an awful truth.

I must begin again.


Initially I could not decide where to start. I was looking positively at this being a transition to my exciting new life, but it was still rather daunting. There was still so much to do and decide. I did not know where to start.

After a few fitful nights, tossing and turning, I woke one morning with my project for the next twelve months laid out before me. It was as clear as anything and I was excited about it. The project that came to mind was:



Begin at the beginning.

Begin on the first step of the beginning.

For the next year, this first year of my new life, my first step would be to focus on me.
As clear as anything, I knew that was what I wanted and needed to do,

There were no excuses for me now.

Over a few weeks, I came up with a plan. It is more than a plan. It is forming new habits.

Headstrong Eating and Active Lifestyle Transition Habits

Ah! That spells out ‘Health’. What a great place to start!

However, there is more to this plan than simply good health. If you read the words carefully it captures everything I want from life. Good health. Sensible eating that allows social interactions. Becoming more active. Forming a balanced lifestyle of self, family, stability, relaxation, social connections, career, creativity, home, celebrations, community. Giving myself a year to transition into my meaningful life and find my life’s purpose. And making all this become habit so that I do it for life!

Wow! What a plan!

For too long in my life, I had been putting everyone and everything else first. I had suffered for that. My heath and well-being had suffered for that. I had gained some weight over the years of my distress (by my seeking comfort in food) and although I had made a start on health and fitness, things had slipped again. I had become less active. My blood pressure was labile. My blood cholesterol was OK, but higher than it had been. My home life had holes in it. My hobbies were in boxes, along with my dreams. I dropped social connections when I got caught underneath the truck. I had resigned from community groups. I had wanted to make something better for myself, for my family, and for the world, by making a contribution to worthwhile meaningful projects. Yet, it had become all talk and no action.

Yet I am no use to anyone, I cannot be supportive to my family, I cannot contribute to the world, unless I remain in good-health and my lifestyle returns to a better balance.That is the place I must first get to.

This has been a summary of my plan to get me to that better place.

Now to begin that first step.


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29 thoughts on “My H.E.A.L.T.H.plan – To begin at the beginning

  1. You are an astounding person and the way you write about your own healing and journey so absolutely honestly is a fantastic example of how resilience can be achieved. I salute you!

  2. I love the plan and the acronym Elizabeth. I started to read this post and thought to myself, this would be a great forward for the book you could publish of all your posts! ❤
    Diana xo

  3. Ah, yes. I’m familiar with that mode. I’ve been trying to be healthier also, but you moved into that mode faster than I did. Took me a year or two. I was in survival mode that long. I hope, as you emerge from survivor mode, you find many things by which to define yourself–along with these healthy choices you’re already making. It can be daunting to start a “new” life midlife, but am loving your attitude toward the journey.

    • It IS daunting and I feel myself trying to brush that thought aside. It takes a lot of effort. Health seems an easier place to start than moving home or starting a new network.
      I am inspired by your uplifting posts that show much resilience.
      Thanks also for your encouragement.

  4. What a great plan Elizabeth!
    Never forget that you are not alone. You just don’t have him around.
    Building your own community and friends is just as important as building your self. 🙂

    • The “alone” I spoke of in this post was not in reference to my ex-husband but rather the second layer of my past and its recent stripping – that of the business and thus the network of connections the business gave me. Although I was ready to let it go, it still lives a bit of a hole. I have two layers to go – that of my home and my local community that I have been part of for 35 years. But, I am resting for a while and focussing on myself. And yes, after the complete stripping away of my past, the building on my new networks shall begin (and indeed that has commenced in many ways already). Thanks for your support and words of encouragement. It means a lot to me and I am always grateful.

    • I think I have actually taken about one hundred ‘first steps’ in the past three and a half years. But new beginnings are so much better than endings and it seems to be the best approach. Thanks for stopping by my blog. I really appreciate your support.

  5. yes, read your heart every time I read one of your post. You’ll get there. It’s just everytime you write something, you indulge in an emotion with hope in it. So encouraging to see how hopeful you are.

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