“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Reinhold Niebuhr


Following on from the fact that I have now become wise (see my last post), I thought that I would return to a favourite quote and see whether I think differently now than before.

A. The things that I now know I cannot change

  1. My marriage ended and I did not choose to end it.
  2. There is a period from a marriage’s end until complete resolution of its ending.
  3. My personality.
  4. My age and gender.

B. The things that I now know that I can change

  1. What I choose do now.
  2. To always act with grace and dignity even when I don’t feel like it.
  3. My character.
  4. In fact everything else, except # 1 – 4 in part A above.

C. The difference

  1. I thought my choices were taken away and they were not.
  2. I cannot help how I feel but I can always change how I act.
  3. Character is what counts.
  4. There is almost nothing that is not within my power to change.

D. The serenity

  1. See point 2 in Part B above. Try it. The calming effect is contagious.

E. The courage

  1. See point 2 in Part B above. As I have done it (most of the time), then that proves I have courage.

F. The wisdom

  1. .See point 2 in all the above. That ‘period’ may take me a long time and maybe all my life but I will not let it define my life or destroy my life.




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42 thoughts on “Wisdom

  1. and the wisdom goes on. Some lessons in life we wish we had not had to learn, but then, we shake out head. It is what it is – another great AA saying – and we get to choose what we make of it. For years I felt that I had been dealt a bad hand and had to make the best of what I had. then one day, I realized I could just walk away from the table!

  2. YOU ARE AWESOME———YOU TAKE ME TO A PLACE WHERE ALL IS CALM____THANK YOU______I HOPE I CAN BE AT LEAST ONE THIRD OF WHO YOU ARE————before2013 ends will you tell me why your ex left,was it midlife crisis,ow,om,or just stupidity———-I cannot comprehend how he walked away from GEM like you——

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  4. This is strong and wonderful, Elizabeth. You’ve identified everything perfectly. Very clear. Like cutting away the overhanging branches, to clear the path forward.

    • Thanks for your support the past year and for your great posts. I have really enjoyed them.
      I am offline now for three weeks. I will ‘see’ you in the new year.
      Have a great Christmas.

  5. Whenever I read your posts, I get so much out of them! Take care and God bless and keep you safe and healthy while you are enjoying family and friends for the holidays! I will be here in three weeks, when I get a chance to check in! I have had some challenges keeping up with my friends! Thank you for being a faithful reader! Hugs, Robin

  6. I did think this was almost a perfect New Year’s Day resolution, to recite that prayer/poem every day, to remember its tenets and try to live with grace. I enjoyed your little references but going from points to parts was a funny exercise in my ability to think clearly! I think later, after lunch, I need a nap! Smiles, Robin

  7. I love it!!! Short, sweet and to the point. I haven’t mastered the act with grace part completely (I don’t have a poker face) but I am trying. Love the idea of the list, think I am going to try and make one too ๐Ÿ™‚

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